Ministering: Deacon Bisi Ajala.
Text: Gen. 2:24
“24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” KJV
Every family union in a local assembly affects the state of a Church. If love rules in the home, it will spread to the Church. Communications gaps, malice, misunderstandings tend to create gaps for the enemy to enter into a home.
Question 1: What is the Church doing to resolves the issue of husbands bringing their wives to U.S., and after training them (as nurses, etc.), she files for a divorce?
Responses 1: The Church leadership can only intervene when they are aware of such issues. Many times, couples are secretive (even to their pastors) until their issues have grown worse. However, men should not be idle because their wives have a lucrative profession. Men should develop themselves continually so their earning power can increase. The woman should not be used as a “money bag” or “milking cow”.
Question 2: Should Christians couples be involved in prenup marital agreements? A prenuptial agreement, or prenup, is a legally binding contract between two people before marriage that outlines how their assets, debts, and spousal support will be handled in the event of divorce or death.
Responses 2: Christian couples should not be involved in such worldly inventions. Christian couples should trust themselves; they are one before the Lord and should not be involved in anything that will create separation. Their strength is in their unity and oneness in everything. Satan loves division.
Question 3: How should a husband or wife keep themselves from being attracted (in an ungodly manner) to another person?
Responses 3: Couples should be open to their spouse if they are sensing such – it may be a spirit of lust that may need to be dealt with. Sometimes it may be dressing and physical adjustments (exercise, diet change, etc.) that a couple needs to make, through mutual communication they can resolve it. If kept secret it may grow into adultery.
Question 4: What is your advice to couples that disagree about going to the same Church but prefer attending separate Churches?
Responses 4: It depends on the doctrinal beliefs of the Church. Though, in many African culture, a wife is expected to join the husband’s Church, however, they should take it to the Lord in prayer. Singles should ensure they resolve issues like this, because a woman might feel her spiritual needs are better met at a particular Church and forcing her elsewhere may after her spiritual health.
Question 5: How do you handle external family interference in your marriage?
Responses 5: Pray to God for wisdom.
Question 6: Should your kids take more priority over your spouse?
Responses 6: No. Let the love of Christ rule in your heart. Christ’s Love is not discriminative.
Question 7: What if you married the wrong person?
Responses 7: First, how did you come to the knowledge that you have married the wrong person? It may be an illusion in your heart. The grass may look greener on the other side but it’s because someone is tending it very well. Tend to Your own garden (spouse) and it will become green as well. As long as your spouse is a creature of God, there are untapped potentials still locked in them, through your prayers and making necessary adjustments in your character, The Lord will transform that spouse to a better person.
God bless you!
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