Ministering: Deacon Bisi Ajala.
Text: Proverb 22:6.
” 6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.“ KJV
Scripture enjoins us to train up our children in the way of the Lord – not in any worldly or cultural way that is contrary to the Kingdom of God. Children are the heritage of the Lord; they are a gift from God to us for stewardship. We will be either rewarded or scolded based on how we raise our children. Our parenting style is either productive or counterproductive.
Question & Answer Session
Question 1: As a youth or young adult, what kind of topic do you consider difficult to take about with your parents
Responses: Sex, puberty, mental health and personal issues.
If you don’t educate your children ahead, they may likely go to the internet or wrong sources. Many of us are so afraid to have conversations with our parents, likely because of our African culture. As parents, we have to endeavor to be our children’s friends so as to build intimacy and confidence with them.
Question 2: When you are having challenges as a youth, where is usually your first line that you go to? Dad, mum, friends, etc.?
Responses: It’s difficult to confide in a distant or remote dad or mum. Parents are advised to invest more time in building relationship with their children. It’s believed dads sometimes appear ‘scary” or “intimidating” thus, children likely gravitate towards their mum or external parties.
Question 3: As a parent, what are some of the ways you can effectively instruct your children?
Responses: Every child likes structure, so it is good to set up structure for them. Also “model” what you are intending. Don’t give instructions that are contrary to your life style. There has to be that level of transparency.
Question 4: What is the right age group you should consider being friends with your children
Responses: Clearly this should be before they are adolescent, else it may not work effectively. As early as possible, be their friends so as to build trust with them. It is advisable to set clear boundaries whenever you present yourself to them as their friend. Parenting is hard work and needs lots of flexibility from time to time. Friendship is about confiding in another, it takes time and effort to build this.
In closing, Isaiah 54:13 – All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.
God bless you!
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