Ministering: Deacon Bisi Ajala.
Youth Sunday Service
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A perfect marriage is one which both couples are committed to its continuous improvement. Only God is perfect, and aligning ourselves to Him and His word keeps our marriage perfect before Him. Marriage is a journey with great opportunities for improvement.
Question 1 – How do you balance a marriage where both parties have same personalities (e.g. both are introverts or extroverts)?
Response: Effective communication and respecting each other’s boundaries.
Question 2 – How do you sense your Spouse is not in a good mood? And how do you handle this?
Response: Some spouses show their displeasure through a withdrawal or “silent” treatment. Pray about it and ask the Holy Spirit to help You. Politely ask him/her if you had upset them and be quick to make amends. Be sensitive and wisely chose an opportune time.
Question 3 – In the heat of an argument, how do you arrive at a common ground?
Response: Bring God into the center of the conversation and be willing to yield. Be careful not to try to win an argument because you could lose that relationship. There is no trophy for winning an argument. Understand each other’s temperament and be dynamic in your apology.
Question 4 – When it comes to finance, is the woman right to say, “her money is hers” and the husband’s money is ours.”
Response: Gen. 2 calls a woman a helper (money was not excluded). Eph. 5 also admonishes that a woman submits (money should not be excluded) to her husband and the husband also ought to love his wife. Both should have a family financial goal or vision and work towards it as a team. Teamwork makes the dream work. If you can give your body, you should have no problem giving your money. To balance this, the men should not be extravagant or careless with the family finance, else a counselling session is needed. In final analysis, couples should be transparent especially with their finances. Be in one accord.
Question 5 – How does one respond to a physical or emotional abuse?
Response: Please seek for help, don’t be quiet, and reach out to a Godly counselor. A momentary separation may be encouraged where a physical abuse has become a norm.
Question 6 – Many youths are being raised in a toxic home (abusive marriage) and this has given a gross misconception of marriage – how would you advise them?
Response: Identify the source of such fear is from the enemy. God created the institution of marriage and understand that when couples don’t align themselves to biblical principles on marriage, it will fail. Living in a toxic home should provoke you to start praying and acquiring knowledge on God’s way of marriage. Parents are usually the first lessons children learn in life.
Question 7 – How do you handle a spouse that is having extra-marital affairs?
Response: Such a situation should not even be mentioned in a Christian home. However, where it occurs, seek the Lord in prayer so you can handle this sensitive matter in wisdom. Also keep interceding for that spouse – most likely they are under a demonic spell. Don’t be quick to judge, do an audit of yourself to be sure you are not the cause of their infidelity; sometimes some deny their spouse sexual intimacy as this may the ground for Satan to lure them into cheating. Don’t forget to forgive them as the Lord has forgiven you.
Question 8 – Should marriage be handled based on generational class?
Response: There are so much marital lessons that can be learnt from previous generations and there are unproductive things that should not also be repeated. Marital lessons can also be learnt cross-culturally – be open to abduct principles that will beautify your marriage. Even scriptures enjoin us to “go to the ants and learn”.
The 10 Commandments of Marriage
God bless you!
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